**Q: How do I ask for a date without coming off as pushy or too eager?** ??
A: Let your match know that you're enjoying getting to know them and would like to meet up sometime soon. ? Ask them what their schedule is like. This confirms your interest in spending time together and is a low-pressure invitation. It's also a great way to gauge mutual interest without making it awkward. ??
**Q: I was turned down. What should I do?** ?
A: We've all been there. If it's clear that there will be no further contact, let them know that you appreciate their time and wish them well. ? If it's a temporary situation, such as your match going out of town or having prior plans, you can ask again in a few days or sooner if they bring it up. Life gets busy, so remember, "no" doesn't always mean never. ?
**Q: My match accepted the date. Now how do I know who pays?** ??♂️?♀️
A: It's 2021, so there are no hard-and-fast rules on who pays. However, if you initiated the date, be prepared to pay for both of you. ?? If you didn't initiate the date but have a strong preference for paying or splitting the bill, feel free to communicate your preference beforehand. For example, you can say, "I'm old school and pay for all of my dates. I hope that's okay with you." Or, "I know you asked me out, but I picked the restaurant, so can we split the bill this time?" If the topic doesn't come up naturally and you strongly want to pay, you can always excuse yourself to the bathroom and discreetly take care of the check before returning. ??
**Q: My last date didn't look anything like their photos. How do I avoid this happening again?** ?❌?
A: Start by looking at your match's photos and ask them to tell you about them. For example, if they have a lot of travel pictures, you can inquire about when those trips were taken. Due to the pandemic, some photos may be over a year old. ?? Be attentive to signs of discrepancy, such as obvious or heavy editing, super close headshots where you can't see their entire face, and the absence of full-body photos. These cues can help you avoid surprises and ensure better alignment between their photos and reality. ?✨
